ICYMI, the legendary Guru Rasa Von Werder's long-running YouTube Channel, now called "Guru Rasa Von Werder: New Religion 4 Women", has many new videos, including ones of her appearing in person.
https://youtube.com/@gururasavonwerder?si=gUSOz2PfqSxzBDoG
Be sure to check it out!
(Updated for 2024 America)
ICYMI, the legendary Guru Rasa Von Werder's long-running YouTube Channel has a new name: "Guru Rasa Von Werder: New Religion 4 Women". And many new videos too.
https://youtube.com/@gururasavonwerder?si=gUSOz2PfqSxzBDoG
Be sure to check it out!
In a previous post a while ago, I had discussed how Women's sexual freedom would be the ultimate kill switch to end patriarchy. But one aspect of this topic had been a bit neglected in that article, unfortunately.
Basically, I have gotten into some online debates from time to time about the "incel" (involuntary celibacy) problem. Many self-identified incels are of course misogynistic trolls with an entitlement complex, but not all of them are. And even some genuine ones seem to think that the "permissiveness" resulting from the sexual revolution has made their situation worse, and give various "evolutionary psychology" arguments. So here is my response to all of that:
First and foremost, equality of opportunity and equality of outcome are mutually exclusive, and trying to force equal outcomes on everyone by fiat has a way of backfiring hard, as many have learned the hard way throughout history. That is true for economics as well as for sex and relationships. So aim for equal opportunity as your North Star instead.
And in any case, since there are really only two ways to attempt to force equal outcomes on everyone in terms of sex and relationships, either 1) treat all Women as "private property" of individual men, or 2) treat all Women as "public property" of all men collectively, that means that there is absolutely NO ethical way to do so whatsoever. (The late Andrea Dworkin would have a field day with that!) That is because Women are, you know, full human beings, NOT "property" in any sense of the word, period. Capisce?
Any ethical solution must, at the very minimum, fight twice as hard for the right to say "no" as for the right to say "yes". After all, rape culture with a smiley face is still rape culture.
Furthermore, most "evolutionary psychology" is, in a word, BS. With NO apologies to Jordan Peterson at all.
"Hypergamy" (dating or marrying "up") by Women is really NOT natural, but is rather a socially constructed effect of capitalism and a hangover of patriarchy, for obvious reasons. Ditto for the bandied-about "80/20" rule, which itself is grossly exaggerated. But to the extent that the sexual revolution has anything at all to do with it, it is basically the opposite of what the manosphere claims. If anything, slut-shaming only makes Women that much MORE picky and/or superficial in regards to men than they would otherwise be, and thus MORE likely to prefer high-status men over low-status men, because if they are going to take such a risk, they might as well make it as "worth their while" as possible. (After all, despite their actually higher sex drive overall, Women's demand for sex is far more "elastic" than men's is: for Women, no sex is typically better than bad sex, for obvious reasons, whereas for men, it's typically the reverse.)
And since the sexual revolution in the Anglosphere, especially the USA, was half-assed and did NOT go to completion, thanks to the "culture wars", what has resulted is that our society is now JUST barely permissive enough for Women to go all-in with high-status men, but still NOT quite permissive enough yet for them to do the same with lower-status men, lest they get shamed for it. And in parallel with that, when high-status or elite Women hook up with many male partners it is considered "classy", provided those men are also high-status, while many of those same Women hypocritically consider it "trashy" when lower-status Women follow in their footsteps, because reasons. (News flash: that is NOT what a sisterhood looks like, that is a CARTEL.) Thus, the real solution is NOT to roll back the sexual revolution, as that would only further deepen this quagmire, but rather to let it finally go to completion like it largely has in the Nordic countries, the Netherlands, and also Brazil to some extent.
(Now, the Nordic countries are NOT perfect by a long shot, of course. Three out of the five Nordic countries (Sweden, Norway, and Iceland) currently practice some flavor of the Entrapment Model for sex work, and one of those three (Iceland) even bans strip clubs. And like all societies, they all have their own set of problems too. But otherwise they seem to be the healthiest in terms of sexuality as well as economics, especially Denmark, the land that the temperance movement, and their ideological descendants, forgot.)
There are indeed lots and lots of otherwise very prosocial and community-minded Women out there who are unfortunately deterred from doing what they really want to do sexually, and would otherwise do largely for mutual pleasure in a sexually free society, due to all of the slut-shaming that still exists even in 2024, especially when also combined with the relative lack of a Nordic style social safety net in the USA as well. This is yet another way that the patriarchy has a nasty habit of backfiring on men, and especially when it is combined with the brutal logic of capitalism and neoliberalism.
(That's simply "erotic plasticity" put another way, with no apologies to Roy Baumeister.)
As for the thinly-veiled misogynistic manosphere canard that when Women (but not men, because reasons) have many sex partners, they supposedly "lose their ability to pair-bond", kinda like how adhesive tape becomes progressively less sticky the more times it is re-used, well, that utterly specious claim of a causal link has never actually been proven. The supposed observational evidence they cite can be very easily explained away by reverse causation, namely, those of either gender with a low capacity (or paradoxically, a very high capacity) to pair-bond to begin with are more likely to have many partners, NOT the other way around. And sometimes, you may simply need to "kiss a lot of frogs" to find the prince, as the saying goes. Either way, we all need to stop slut-shaming, yesterday. It serves NO valid purpose whatsoever.
And we certainly do NOT need a "price floor" for sex. Rather, what we need is a DIGNITY floor, where both genders treat each other as ends in themselves, not solely as means to an end, per Immanuel Kant's categorical imperative in general. (Too bad he was so antisexual himself, otherwise he would have had a great model of sexual ethics too.)
There are also ecological benefits to sexual freedom as well. Once the sexual revolution is fully complete, hypergamy has withered on the vine, and the "cost" of sex has thus been rightsized, maybe then the men of the sci-tech persuasion wouldn't feel the need (as much, at least) to keep raping the Earth to build more ever-larger phallus-extending "Towers of Babel" (i.e. frivolous, destructive, and/or inappropriate technologies) of mindless aggrandizement to impress Women just so they can get laid. (Even nerdy men tend to have one-track minds, lol.) Maybe men of the warrior persuasion would be less likely to want to start wars or go to war, for the same reason. And, God willing, maybe men in general in the rich countries would be far more willing to reduce their outsized "standard of living" (in terms of material and resource consumption) to one that the Earth can actually afford in the long run, and not one that requires multiple Earths worth of resources, for the same reason. Conspicuous consumption as a thinly-veiled, plausibly-deniable mating ritual would thus be far more likely to desist.
And thus this whole silly game of "king of the hill" writ large will finally end, God willing.
Freud's Civilization And Its Discontents thesis has really long since jumped the shark! It's not the 19th century anymore.
(And to any angry incels reading this: seriously, lose the entitlement attitude, yesterday. It is really quite unbecoming. Or to put in your very own lingo: stop simping for Stacy, and give Becky a chance. Let Stacy and Chad have each other. And take a long, hard look in the mirror as well. Think "internal locus of control, NOT external". Oh, and bonus points if you are fortunate enough to find an older Woman as a "mentor with benefits" willing to "show you the ropes".)
To reiterate from my previous article:
As Yuri Zavorotny himself says:
So here is our kill switch: we stop telling women when, where and with whom she is allowed to get involved romantically. Her body, her choice. And she is perfectly capable of making it a responsible choice, thank you very much.
And lest anyone misunderstand his words, read too much into it, or try to put words in his mouth:
NOTE: This is not to suggest that anyone should change their own behavior. We do whatever we are comfortable with. That, of course, includes staying monogamous, still a perfectly valid choice. But it can not be justified as a moral choice anymore -- rather, it is a personal preference.
Female sexuality (or more accurately, female-defined sexuality) is an extremely powerful force to be reckoned with, which is why the patriarchy has gone out of its way to suppress it (and/or supplant it with male-defined sexuality). All the more reason to unleash it in like fashion, and put an end to the toxic "commodity model" of sexuality.
Until then, we will have 1) too many men chasing too few Women overall, AND simultaneously 2) too many Women chasing too few high-status men, with the latter having plenty of options and taking full advantage of such bargaining power. And both low to average-status men, as well as Women in general, get screwed (and not in a good way!) in this stagflationary quagmire. It's "musical chairs" both ways. The song "Land of Confusion" by Genesis comes to mind.
So what are we waiting for? Kill Switch Engage! Let the planetary healing begin!
P.S. If anyone still thinks that Jordan Peterson's idea of "enforced monogamy" is a real solution to the incel problem, well, I've got a nice bridge I'd like to sell you. As for the jealousy problem, the best his "solution" can do is to "flatten the curve" of jealousy in the short run, while in the long run, that green-eyed monster will unfortunately still be there waiting to pop up and strike at any moment, and thus the area under the curve will be the same or even greater. Better to deal with it head-on instead, and try one's best to sublimate it as much as possible into its antithesis, known as "compersion", or "frubbly" in the vernacular. In other words, think "abundance mindset", not "scarcity mindset". Liberty is like love: the more you give, the more you get. It's not pie.
And speaking of jealousy, for those Women who are worried about men choosing AI girlfriends and robots over them, worry not. Remember, "it is the SPIRIT the quickens" (i.e. gives life), NOT the flesh. And AI has neither. Thus, any man who is even remotely worth your time and energy will not choose AI over you (unless you literally bring nothing at all to the table, but even then, they would choose another real-life Woman instead, not AI). If anything, AI and robots would be good for keeping the misogynistic miscreant trolls happily occupied so they (hopefully) stay far away from real-life Women, and since they would be less likely to procreate, that problem is thus largely self-correcting in the long run.
ICYMI, the legendary Guru Rasa Von Werder has more YouTube videos on her channel. Here are just the latest two of several, these ones specifically being on the topic of her latest spiritual journey (sadhana) to see God face to face, again:
And many more on her channel as well.
UPDATE: Here is another one as well. A continuation of the same topic:
Enjoy 😊
ICYMI, the latest book by the legendary Guru Rasa Von Werder, and also featuring the great prophet and pundit William Bond and myself as well, has now been published on Lulu. The book, Can Female Power Save The Planet? Part 2, is now available to order on the Lulu website:
Please be sure to check it out.
At least in Norway, it sure seems to be.
A Norwegian study from 2023 basically found that the age-old sexual double standard (which I thoroughly oppose, for the record) is currently either dead or nearly so, and sometimes even a bit reversed, at least in Norway and some other countries. Basically, most people think others will judge them far more harshly than they actually do, so the belief in such is only because others believe it, and so on. And that is true for both genders, surprisingly. It is now a ghost and hangover of patriarchal history that is sustained only through "pluralistic ignorance" currently. Looks like, far from being "natural" per evolutionary psychology, the double standard was socially constructed all along.
(Note that the largely null results of this study in terms of how people judge one another also imply as a corollary that so-called "hookup culture" is NOT really the "collective action trap" or zero-sum game that some reactionaries seem to think it is, at least not in sexually liberal societies.)
Of course, this is clearly not true in every country in the world, nor in every social circle. But generally, in the more socially and sexually liberal countries like the Nordic countries, and even perhaps some parts of the historically stuffy Anglosphere such as the USA and UK to some extent, it is indeed trending that way, and should be a cause for celebration. Let the planetary healing begin!
