Writer Megan E. Holstein wrote a recent article, "The Two Ways Men Express Lust", that should be a must-read for everyone. While I do not always agree with everything this particular author writes in other articles, which can be occasionally problematic and even a little cringeworthy at times (who isn't, really?), this article is spot-on for the most part. She articulates very well the nuances of male lust in a way that does NOT throw out the proverbial baby with the bathwater, a perspective that is very much needed today.
In a nutshell, there is a world of difference between men who love sex with Women versus men who view sex with Women as a conquest (cf. Riane Eisler's "partnership" vs. "dominator" models). The former is natural and healthy, while the latter is downright toxic. I would go so far as to argue that the latter is, even when consensual, on the same spectrum as rape and sexual assault, and for such conquerors, slopes can be much slipperier than they appear. But we must not conflate mere sexual desire with the desire for conquest, lest we either end up vilifying male sexuality across the board (which can backfire mightily), promoting rape culture, or more likely a bit of both.
Very much worth a read, regardless of how you may feel about some of the other articles she writes.
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