One issue that has long divided humanity since time immemorial--or more accurately, since the advent of patriarchy about 7000 years ago--has been sexuality in general, especially as regards to Women's sexual freedom or lack thereof. While patriarchy's rather peculiar restrictions were primarily if not entirely designed by men to control Women, even many self-proclaimed feminists have also had their reservations about removing them. In the 1970s and 1980s, the "Feminist Sex Wars" were a classic example of such division. And to this day, there is still much controversy about just how sex-positive feminism ought to be.
Like most of us in the Matriarchy movement, I believe in a sexually free
society overall as far as consenting adults of all ages are concerned, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Sexual
repression has been proven to do more harm than good on balance, and essentially
all of patriarchy's archaic and repressive rules about sex were designed
to control Women. That was originally done so men could be at least
somewhat certain of paternity, as descent was reckoned (and inheritances
were passed) through the male bloodline, though with the advent of
modern birth control and paternity testing such a reason has basically
become obsolete. Note the double standard of patriarchy in which Women
are far more likely to be punished for sexual transgressions, and how
men who sleep around are considered "studs" and "legends" while women
who do so are considered "sluts" and "whores". In contrast, Matriarchal
societies have historically been far more sexually free in general,
since knowledge of paternity was basically a non-issue as descent was
reckoned through the female bloodline. And when Women finally reclaim
their rightful position as the new leaders of the free world, I believe
that our society will become sexually free once again, albeit with some
concessions to modern times of course. In the meantime, we all need to
stop slut-shaming Women yesterday.
Unfortunately, though, the biggest slut-shamers these days tend to be female, and
these prudish modern-day Pharisees come in all ages, generations, and
all political leanings ranging from reich-wing fundies to sex-negative
radfems. This erotophobia is basically internalized patriarchy and
self-hating misogyny (especially on the right), as well as (especially
on the left) a fear that sexual freedom will lead to a "race to the
bottom" for Women much like so-called "free trade" and "free enterprise"
does for the broader working class. The former can be debunked as
effed up on its face, while the latter can be debunked by noting that
while men are naturally hard-wired to worship Women, employers are not
naturally hard-wired to worship their employees (would that it were
true!), so that analogy can only go so far in practice. Furthermore, the interests of capital and labor have always been opposed and always will be (unless capital and labor become one and the same), while the interests of men and Women are not inherently opposed (and did not become opposed until the advent of patriarchy). We should in fact be natural allies, but we fellas messed that up big time, and as they say the rest is history. And regardless, since the so-called "sexual revolution" of the 1960s-1970s, as much of a mixed bag as it were, Women have gained more far more power (relative to men) than they lost as a result of increased sexual freedom overall.
Additionally, patriarchy's repressive rules against masturbation, homosexuality,
and birth control are really a result of the fact that patriarchy is one
big Ponzi scheme (and protection racket) that requires very high birth
rates to keep it afloat. Thus, anything that frustrates that goal is
deemed "sinful". Patriarchy considers Women to be the brood mares, while
men are the work horses (except for the ruling 1%, of course, who reaps all the benefits). And in today's overpopulated world, such rules
are also obsolete as well. In Matriarchal societies, on the other
hand, overpopulation would never even have occurred in the first place
as Women would have complete sexual and reproductive freedom, and thus
not have had pregnancies forced upon them by men. Let that sink in for a moment.
I personally believe that there are two important rules for ethical sexual behavior in general. The first one is enthusiastic consent
(not mere grudging or reluctant "consent") for all parties involved, period.
Otherwise there is a name for it, and it is called RAPE. The second one
is, "whoever has the yoni makes the rules", as the primary goal for the
man should be to please the woman rather than merely pleasing himself.
And aside from general ethical principles such as "do not harm others"
that also are true for non-sexual matters, those are basically the only
rules for sex that we really need, that we may all enjoy mutual benefit and protection.
Speaking of protection, it should also go without saying that in 2016, condoms should generally be considered SOP (standard operating procedure) by default. The world is on fire, both in terms of the dire consequences of overpopulation as well as some people's STDs these days. But the point cannot be stressed enough.
For an excellent website for the fellas about sexuality, please check out Guru Rasa von Werder's site "Embodiment of God". Food for thought indeed. As Guru Rasa notes, sex is sacred, not sinful. It's time we started treating it accordingly.
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